https://nouthetic.org/drive-away/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=drive-away Welcome to the Mid-America Institute for Nouthetic Studies, founded by Jay Adams. INS provides training and resources for biblical counseling. Mon, 11 Oct 2021 13:10:55 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 https://nouthetic.org/drive-away/#comment-1079 Thu, 16 Mar 2017 21:02:48 +0000 https://www.nouthetic.org/blog/?p=3210#comment-1079 I once was at a one day seminar led by John Maxwell. His strategy was to strike pre-emptively: get Elder S&S supportive and “on your side” by making the first move. Perhaps a couple of front porch visits where the pastor would pick his brain and enlist his support.
At one level, it struck me as shrewd and appropriate. Nothing wrong with giving the benefit of the doubt and assuming the best and picking his brain and enlisting his support.
But it struck me, too, as manipulative. How easily this strategy substitutes for confronting Elder S&S’s sinful behavior and immediately, publicly (within context of the meeting) and firmly, asking him to ask your and your fellow elders’ forgiveness.
Thoughts?

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